Love…does not seek its own. First Corinthians 13:4-5
In this month’s articles I would like to share with you some of the freedoms that you and I can experience through our faith in the Lord Jesus. And some of the thoughts that I’ll be sharing come from the writings of a man I deeply respect as a leader in the Christian faith, Dr. Dennis Kinlaw, past president of Asbury Theological Seminary. These thoughts have been so incredibly helpful to me, so I wanted to share them with you.
Today I’d like to ask if you know what a joy it is to realize there are some things you can be free from having to do? Maybe the greatest of these freedoms is that of not having to have one’s own way.
There is nothing more that enslaves us than that which insists you must have your own way…or try very hard to get your own way…in every situation. Nothing in the world destroys relationships more quickly and more completely than this bondage to one’s own wishes. It pollutes marriages, friendships, and parent-child relationships.
But the good news is that the Word of God is very clear that we can be freed from it.
When the apostle Paul says in 1 Corinthians 13 that love is not self-seeking, he’s dealing with this insistence on fulfilling our own agendas. At the very core of sin is my own self-will and demand that I get what I want. But if I am to be a Christian, I must settle in my life once and for all that the law of my life is not my will, but Christ’s will.
His will has to be first, and that means that my will has to be surrendered to His will.
Jesus allows us to be wrong so many times in life in order to find out whether we can live without having to get our own way. We are wrong often enough that we ought to know we should never insist on our way unless it is divinely clear that it is His will we’re seeking and not our own.
It’s surprising what healing and growth can occur in human relationships when we reach the place where we can bow to others and above all bow to Him.
Richard Loman is senior pastor at Mount Airy Wesleyan Church